Since writing Top 17 Qualities to look for in your future husband, I’ve had requests from the gentlemen to write a similar post for them in other to identify those wife material qualities. I spent days researching on this topic so as to drive home some credible points. I found it interesting that when it comes to love, men want to give it to a woman who has the potential to become their wife.
She makes him a better person
Some men have bad table manner, eating, sleeping and other bad habits. You can be of positive influence in his life and help change his bad habits. Be an example to him, the type that he himself can follow and be proud of. Be the reason he would want to change himself and be a better person, you will be surprise how he would thank you and proudly announce you for revising his personality.
She should be self-developed
Men love a woman who is intelligent, articulate, and open minded, he is going to be spending a lot of time with her, so she should be able to hold a good conversation. She should be wise, smart, and give you good advice. His women’s intuition should be strong. He should look to you all the time for advice.
She Respect her man:
If you want to be respected treat others with respect too. Haven’t we all heard ‘Give respect and take respect’. Respect can be reflected in the way one talks and behaves. Always speak in a loving and refrain from speaking in a harsh manner. A good wife respects her hubby and she never chooses to belittle, humiliate or otherwise harm him in private nor in public. It is better to watch what you say and to think your thoughts through before speaking as it is not possible to take back the words once they have been spoken. A good wife will treat her man with respect no matter where she found herself.
She’s Supportive:
A Good woman supportive and also understanding especially in times of troubles. A good wife stand with her hubby through his successes and failures and provides reassurance when he's feeling down. She love and respect him no matter the conditions. Supporting him in all stages of his career and life. Do not belittle your man or hurt his ego. It is often heard saying that ‘a wife can make a man or break a man’. Be proud of him on his accomplishments and genuinely complement him. If you do this you can expect your husband to behave with you in the same manner and also respect you more for your support.
She’s trustworthy
Women please do not overspend, overeat, become crazy religious, develop emotional relationships with other men, or break his confidence with your mom, sister, or girlfriends.
You should inspire trustworthiness within him. Men if you don’t trust your woman, you’re probably making her as bitter as you’re making yourself. Not worth it. If you can’t trust her, maybe you’re not ready to date her or maybe you need to work on confidence issues within yourself. If there’s good reason not to trust her, don’t even go there. Just like any cheater, it’s bound to happen again.
She appreciate and accept his financial status. As a woman, you are clear about your financial comfort zone, and you should be aware of your partner’s financial abilities. Appreciate and work with the little he can provide. Know his budget to run your home before you get married.
Get real with yourself. If a “simple life” to him translates as “destitute and poor” to you, you need to find someone who is on the same economic page as you. Do not go into denial because you are in love and then complain about his job choice and your shared standard of living after you are married.
She Communicate:
Communication. It is of utmost importance in any kind of relationship, it is key to a good and solid marriage. If you do not communicate; your facts and problems or thoughts they will never ever going to reach your man. Find time to sit and talk with your husband on a daily basis even if it is for only half an hour, also be a good listener when he is talking. You don’t want your marriage on the rocks, right? So start sharing with your husband whatever is going on in your mind. Even if your mind is hassle free, sit together at the end of the day and share incidents from your day at work or at home. When you share things with your husband, he finds it easier to open up in front of you and your marriage will be a happy one.
Nagging
This is one thing that men absolutely hate in most women. We know that after marriage, your husband is now part of you and you want to share all your grievance, insecurities, problems and demands with him, but there’re limit to everything. The truth is that your nagging can create unwanted rift or can make things worse between the two of you. To choose a proper time to pick a quarrel, night is the time. Not immediately after your husband comes home from work or when he is at work. Nobody likes women nagging all the time and this nagging is such a dangerous quality that might even lead to infidelity on the husband’s part.
Surprise him
Make your man speechless with surprises planned for him. Men like surprises too like women do, men like to feel pampered once in a while. So ladies, don’t wait for some special occasion. It does not require any special day to profess your love to your man. Plan a beautiful surprise, romantic or adventurous and woo him all over again. You will see how crazily in love he is going to be with you.
Create room for Happiness
Your man’s state of mind depends on you to a larger extent. It’s your duty, ladies, to keep your husband satisfied in every manner. Keep a healthy environment at home, have good sex, cook good food, be friendly, respect your in-laws, share, discuss and find solution to problems jointly, and your husband will thank the Almighty for gifting him such a mature and understanding better half .
You let him contribute to you.
Men are meant to be the head of a home. They want to be rock stars for their women. You are able to embody being beautifully empowered and independent, while being receptive and appreciative of what your man wants to give you. You are easy to contribute to.
When in a relationship, you must bring down your hyper-individualism. Count on him for things. Really count on him, so if he doesn’t do things you want done, leave it undone. And if it does go undone, gently remind him that you are counting on him. 95% of the time, your guy simply missed the communication or forgot.
Other qualities are be responsible, get alone with spouse friend and families, selfless, Ambitious, Cleanliness, Patients, Give him space etc.
Word of advice for our ladies.
Life isn’t a fairy tale
Life is not the same as what we see in the movies or story books. Women love to dream about a lot of things; the perfect husband, the perfect home, furniture and fittings in their houses, their kitchen and so on. Reality is quite different from your dreams, sometimes even harsh too. So ladies wake up and embrace real life with what it has to offer. I advise you to come to terms with reality and accept the fact that the house, your husband, your in-laws are way different from what you had imagined, that’s when you will have a perfect marriage.
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